Be My Valentine

This is a revised version of last year’s Valentine’s post, PLUS a new free download: Daily Affirmation Cards.

“This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” – John 15:12

Have you ever considered the idea of loving yourself the way God calls us to love all people? I mean, you too, are people, right? What if God’s command to ‘love one another’ includes loving ourselves?

We can only give what we have. If my inner love reserves are low or empty, my capacity to love others is impacted. We’ve all had those days that call on us to give, nurture, listen, empathize, give, and give some more. My ‘giving’ begins to look and feel a lot different to the recipient as I become more tired and depleted. And my empathy starts to feel less and less empathetic and more and more impatient!

In those moments, I’ve found two ‘love-reserve-boosting’ strategies that work beautifully:

Providing words of encouragement and support for myself
Receiving words of encouragement and support from God

When I try to love people from empty reserves, without first being filled with God’s love, it is just noise and nonsense (Reference 1 Corinthians 13:1-2).

When I am worn out, overwhelmed, fed up, and empty, I’ve learned to give myself encouragement and permission to take a pause. That might sound like, “De, you’re doing a good job. There is a lot happening today, huh?! Take a breath. Sit for a moment. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and receive His Love.”

“So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.“ – 1 John 4:16

This Valentine’s Day, let’s give our love to ourselves too. First, even. Let’s try on self-love and experience the peace that grows within.

But how do I love myself,’ you might ask?

Daily Self-Affirmation
One way is through the practice of daily self-affirmations. Repeating a daily affirmation is one simple, yet powerful, gift we can give ourselves this Valentine’s Day (and everyday!).

The gift of encouragement (rather than criticism)
The gift of self-support (rather than judgment)
The gift of peace-of-mind (rather than stress & worry)

Click on the image below to download our Daily Affirmation Card Templates. Print out the ones you like best and write your daily affirmations on them. Post these little love notes to yourself around your home or workspace. You can make some for your mate and your children too.

Not sure what to write? Below are a few self-loving affirmations to try on. Some are based on St. Paul’s lines from 1 Corinthians, some based on my coaching experiences with clients (and with myself!).

I am patient, especially with myself.
I am gentle, not demanding, with myself.
I am forgiving, especially of myself.
I am a good mom.
I am handling all things with grace today.
There is nothing I cannot face. I hope all things. I endure all things.
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
I am giving my best today and I am enough.

Do one or two of the statements above resonate for you? Write these on an affirmation card. Or create your own affirmations that feel more resonant. Consider scripture verses or quotes that are uplifting or soothing to you.

A daily affirmation may not feel like a big deal. Let me assure you that our daily affirmations, when said consistently, ARE helping us evolve the conversation of our mothering!

With love,

Linking up with: Mommy Monday Blog Hop, Motivation Monday, Titus Tuesdays, Grace and Truth, Faith Filled Friday, Wise Woman Linkup, Women with Intention

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  1. Thank you De. These affirmations are refreshing 🙂

  2. Kelly Basham says:

    This is great De – “When I try to love people from empty reserves, without first being filled with God’s love, it is just noise and nonsense.” A busy moms, wives, friends, and leaders it’s easy to forget to love on ourselves. I was just talking about this subject with a friend the other day and one of the things we discussed was that even Jesus took time for himself. This is good and timely reminder for me De, thanks!

    • De Yarrison says:

      Hi Kelly! Thank you for taking the time to comment. Yes, even Jesus took time out to connect with God!! Great reminder, thank you. His “quiet time with God” strengthened Him to continue on with His God-given mission. And so it is for us!


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