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  • Participating with the Divine

    As I wrote about a couple of weeks ago, my one word for 2015 is Love. In that post I declared that my 2015 Love would:

    • Be grounded in prayer and in pursuit of how Jesus wants me to Love
    • Strive to be that servant kind of love, especially within my immediate family
    • Involve a lot less talking and lot more listening
    • Approach my daily duties in my home with a joyful and grateful heart
    • Be verbalized more. That is, I plan to say ‘I love you’ more often, especially to my husband
    • Guide me to think & act beyond myself; to be more self-less.
    • Safeguard my intentions and motives, ensuring they are for love of Him and the desire to align my life with His Divine Will.

    As I’ve been moving through everyday life with a heightened awareness on how I’m loving others, I’ve learned something incredible. I’ve learned that every day, without leaving my house, heck without even getting out of my pajamas, I get to partner with the God of the universe. That I have an important role to play in fulfilling the Will of God through the way I love and care for my family.

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  • The Art of Blanking Out

    After writing about approaching our relationships with a sense of curiosity, I began thinking about HOW we go about this, and about the quality of open-mindedness. When I work with a family or a team to define needs and shared values, open-mindedness shows up in the conversation every time. We all want it. Need it, in fact. And we can feel frustrated or angry when it is missing.

    Open-mindedness is one of those things that we believe we’re doing (and doing well, I might add), and we’re wishing others were better at it. Same goes for listening. Ask anyone if she thinks she is open-minded or a good listener and you’re bound to get a YES. Yet, not feeling listened to is one of the top complaints in most all relationships. Hmmmm. Read more

  • This week’s word is…LOVE

    There are words that are essential to the Mothering Conversation. Words that represent qualities and behaviors for us to try on if we are to
    evolve the conversation of mothering. Each week on our blog, we feature one of these Words.

    Definition of Love:
    Noun: Unselfish, loyal, and benevolent concern for the good of another.
    Verb: To feel affection and tenderness for another.

    If your life experience is anything like mine, I’ll venture a guess that there are times when showing love to your mate or child don’t come so easy. Even when we aren’t feeling the love (verb), we are still called to give the love (noun). This can be difficult!

    The Love Challenge

    Here’s a love challenge for you to consider. The purpose of the love challenge is to think about love in the way God thinks about love. And to help us practice love (noun) even when we don’t feel love (verb).

    The challenge is based on this description of love, given to us by Paul in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7…

    “Love is patient, love is kind. Love is never jealous or envious, never boastful, nor proud, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense.
    Love does not demand its own way. Love keeps no score of wrongs; does not gloat over another’s sins, but delights in truth.
    There is nothing love cannot face. Love always protects, always trusts. Love hopes all things. Love endures all things.”

    In the love challenge, we replace the word “love” with the pronoun “I”…

    “I am patient, I am kind. I am never jealous or envious, never boastful, nor proud, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense.
    I do not demand my own way. I keep no score of wrongs; do not gloat over another’s sins, but delight in truth.
    There is nothing I cannot face. I always protect, always trust. I hope all things. I endure all things.”

    Read the above aloud to yourself, using the word “I”.

    Certainly gives me plenty to strive for in the way I am loving. Others as well as myself!

    Take The Love Challenge!

    1. Choose one phrase or sentence from the verses above to pour your love energy into today. Perhaps it will be “I am not envious” or “I am not quick to take offense” or “I endure all things.”
    2. Write this phrase or sentence on an index card to carry with you all day. Read it to yourself often throughout the day. Allow this particular way of showing love to guide your interactions and your mothering today.
    3. At the end of the day, check-in with yourself:
      • What was it like to show love to others in this way today?
      • What impact did you notice, if any, on your relationships?
      • How do you feel in this moment?
    4. Choose a phrase each day! It can be the same one or a different one. I sometimes have to work with the same one for a while before that way of loving flows more naturally for me 🙂

    A Closing Prayer:
    Heavenly Father, help me to love as you love! Open the eyes of my heart so I may see myself more clearly. Please reveal the truth of my own heart to me. Show me where I hold onto selfishness or pride, where YOU wish for me to only Love. Thank You for how You love me with all constancy and mercy. Teach me to do the same. In Jesus name, Amen!

    “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” – 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

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